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It Never Ends

Wherever you go, wherever they’re from and whatever they look like, people are pretty much the same wherever you go, especially when it  comes to things like trust, honesty and heated conflicts.

Trust because there are only a few people you’ll ever meet that you can actually trust. 
Unfortunately, a lot of people put too much trust in people who aren’t as reliable as they may think, meaning they tend to find this out the hard way. On top of that, it’s not necessarily in the nicest way; it’s not unusual for many to get hurt in the process.

Honesty because people will always lie to you.
There are so many two faced people out there where lying is a second nature to them. What’s sad about it is that at times people can put more trust into the liars rather than those few who are telling the truth. By the time people may realise this it’s probably too late, as by then, the liars may have somehow twisted and manipulated you.

Conflict because it tends to be the outcome of the two things mentioned above
Conflicts commonly spur from a lack of trust or honestly in between people. Though mainly verbal, they can sometimes get physical or more damaging [mentally or physically] as people get older.

Such conflicts are usually associated with high school. However when it comes to the work place, things aren’t that different.
While
many would think that people would grow out of it once becoming an adult, many simply don’t. They remain as the cold, bitter bitchy people that they were in high school and college who still form cliques and single out individuals they don’t like for whatever reason. They continue to bully, abuse and harass those who simply don’t deserve it.

So how can this be avoided?  That’s the issue it can’t. Wherever you go there will always be someone who has an of issue with you or someone you many know. While you may not be able to always get away from them, you don’t have to put up with it.

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January 11, 2010 at 8:33 pm Leave a comment

Being Biracial

Biracial is defined as someone who has parents from two races; for instance they may have a black mother and a white father, or an asian mother and a black father etc. [I’ll mainly be talking about those who are mixed with black and white, but there’ll also be mentions of other mixes]

People are used to being categorized as one race, and in a country like America, there has been rules to keep things that way; the most common being the One Drop Rule. It stated that if you were partially black (whether you’re 1/2, 1/4. 1/8 or even 1/16) you were still considered black. This meant that even if someone looked white but had a black great grandmother, they would be considered black and at the time, not be accepted by the white race [in America] It’s because of such rules that there have been constant debates on what to classify biracial people like Halle Berry, Lou Jing and Barack Obama.

As well as black people having various complexions, certain aspects can come out stronger from one parent, meaning biracial people vary in appearance. Believe it or not, the following people are all of the same mix (one black parent & one white parent):

Jael (ANTM contestant)    Emily King (Singer)

Charley Uchea                                     Slash (Musician)
(Big Brother UK Contestant)

Lenny Kravitz (Singer)              Rashida Jones (Quincy Jones’ daughter)

As you can see, some of them look mixed while others only look black (Charley Uchea) or only look white (Jael or Rashida Jones). Although I’m not biracial myself, I know many people who are. While many of them embrace both of the races, just as many prefer one half of themselves, leading them to be ashamed of the other half if not deny it completely.

This could be for many reasons [not only with those I know, but generally], one is discrimination they face from friends and even family. Many within the black community automatically dislike them for stupid reasons; they assume that those who are biracial think they are better than them because their skin is lighter etc. when most of the time, that is not true.

Many within the white and Asian community don’t approve of biracial people, especially if they’re half black, and they’re not afraid to admit it. That’s how derogatory terms such as “half breed” developed (just look at what happened to Lou Jing)

Another reason is their perceptions of the denied race is based on either a bad experience or stereotypes. Say a biracial girl (black and white) was only in contact with the white side of her family and the only exposure to black people she had was the negative perceptions of us as rapists, gangsters, drug dealers etc. through the media. Not only could she deny her black side, but she may try and do anything she can when she’s older to not associate herself with black people, even if that means talking in a certain way, listening to a certain type of music, or even straightening her hair and bleaching her skin to look more white.

She may even be forced to deny one side. On the Tyra Banks show singer Kimberley Locke spoke about how in High School her black friends tried to make her choose one side of her as they believed she couldn’t be both black and white. Although she refused to choose between the two, that’s unfortunately not the case for many other biracial people in the same position. Many are proud of only one when they really should be proud of both. Being biracial doesn’t make them “dirty” or “unpure”, if anything it makes them more diverse and unique.
If they’re surrounded by those who don’t accept them for who they are, then they’re not the people they should associate with, there are millions of people out there who will embrace their mixed heritage.

January 10, 2010 at 4:35 pm Leave a comment

Gone Too Soon

Summer started off well, with a pit stop in London and the ususal visits to Montreux Jazz concerts at the beginning of July…

For the last 5-6 weeks, I’ve been in St Lucia (which is why I haven’t been writing on here). It’s the country that my Grandparents are from, so I was there visiting family as well as doing all the touristy stuff like sight seeing

Though I was there for a month…it didn’t feel like it. I did so many things that time went by a lot quicker than I thought it would.

Being back in CH, it kinda feels strange. It’s not exactly colder [yet] but it felt odd for a bit seeing the Alps again and being surrounded by people speaking French. And although it was my first time being there, I do miss St Lucia. While I want to go back to the beaches, hot weather, palm trees and seeing the Pitons again, I knew that I had to get back to reality at some point, especially to start school and see friends etc…

Maybe being in another place made this summer go by so quickly. If I stayed in CH, it probably would have been as long as it felt and I would have been happy to start school again. After all…I knew people in that position who feel that way.

…I guess time really does fly when you’re having fun…

August 24, 2009 at 6:20 pm Leave a comment

So He Smoked Weed…

Not so long after his achievement at the Beijing Olympics w/ 8 gold medals, this picture of Michael Phelps surfaced into the tabloids. It showed him smoking weed in a bong. It lead to a lot of controversy…you know people saying it was wrong, it’s illegal, he shouldn’t have done it, stuff like that…

What I don’t understand is why there are people out there who made it out to be such a big deal. I personally couldn’t care less about what Michael Phelps does or has done in his personal life because it’s his business. He [may have been] in the situation where it was offered to him. He’s human he has every right to try it if he wants to. Michael seems like a smart man, meaning he probably knows the risks of smoking it.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that it’s ok to smoke weed, I’m saying that it’s something that a lot of people do or have tried, so Michael shouldn’t be so heavily criticized for it just because he’s famous. He wasn’t the first and definitely won’t be the last person to smoke it.

Marijuana is a Class B drug. While it’s still a drug, it’s not the worst kind he could’ve been doing. There are celebrities [and maybe some athletes] out there who smoke crack, inject themselves with heroin, swallow ecstasy and snort cocaine (if not all four) as well as other things; so the people out there criticizing Michael for doing some weed should be doing the same to all those other celebrities doing worse.

He apologized for doing it, but in a way…I don’t think he should’ve. By saying sorry he’s only apologizing for making a mistake. While it’s good that he recognized he shouldn’t have done it, he was a college student at the time. College students always get up to stupid things at partys. Not just the ones at college, but everywhere else too…so why should Michael be ridiculed for his mistakes?

I understand that there are people who look up to him as an athlete, but think of it this way. The same thing if not worse could of been done by all the other “role models” out there, you just don’t know about it. The man’s only human give him a break!! I think that this picture only got out because someone he knew tried to make tons of money out of it and potentially ruin the man’s career. He may have succeeded in the money part…but Michael is still an Olympic gold medalist [14 to be exact] who holds 7 world records in swimming…shows you who your true friends are doesn’t it?

I’m going to end this with a quote:

Let he who is without sin cast the first stone

So if you can honestly say that you’ve made no mistakes or stupid decisions before, feel free to “cast all the stones” you want. Until then, leave people like Michael alone.


July 5, 2009 at 9:09 pm Leave a comment


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