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Being Biracial

Biracial is defined as someone who has parents from two races; for instance they may have a black mother and a white father, or an asian mother and a black father etc. [I’ll mainly be talking about those who are mixed with black and white, but there’ll also be mentions of other mixes]

People are used to being categorized as one race, and in a country like America, there has been rules to keep things that way; the most common being the One Drop Rule. It stated that if you were partially black (whether you’re 1/2, 1/4. 1/8 or even 1/16) you were still considered black. This meant that even if someone looked white but had a black great grandmother, they would be considered black and at the time, not be accepted by the white race [in America] It’s because of such rules that there have been constant debates on what to classify biracial people like Halle Berry, Lou Jing and Barack Obama.

As well as black people having various complexions, certain aspects can come out stronger from one parent, meaning biracial people vary in appearance. Believe it or not, the following people are all of the same mix (one black parent & one white parent):

Jael (ANTM contestant)    Emily King (Singer)

Charley Uchea                                     Slash (Musician)
(Big Brother UK Contestant)

Lenny Kravitz (Singer)              Rashida Jones (Quincy Jones’ daughter)

As you can see, some of them look mixed while others only look black (Charley Uchea) or only look white (Jael or Rashida Jones). Although I’m not biracial myself, I know many people who are. While many of them embrace both of the races, just as many prefer one half of themselves, leading them to be ashamed of the other half if not deny it completely.

This could be for many reasons [not only with those I know, but generally], one is discrimination they face from friends and even family. Many within the black community automatically dislike them for stupid reasons; they assume that those who are biracial think they are better than them because their skin is lighter etc. when most of the time, that is not true.

Many within the white and Asian community don’t approve of biracial people, especially if they’re half black, and they’re not afraid to admit it. That’s how derogatory terms such as “half breed” developed (just look at what happened to Lou Jing)

Another reason is their perceptions of the denied race is based on either a bad experience or stereotypes. Say a biracial girl (black and white) was only in contact with the white side of her family and the only exposure to black people she had was the negative perceptions of us as rapists, gangsters, drug dealers etc. through the media. Not only could she deny her black side, but she may try and do anything she can when she’s older to not associate herself with black people, even if that means talking in a certain way, listening to a certain type of music, or even straightening her hair and bleaching her skin to look more white.

She may even be forced to deny one side. On the Tyra Banks show singer Kimberley Locke spoke about how in High School her black friends tried to make her choose one side of her as they believed she couldn’t be both black and white. Although she refused to choose between the two, that’s unfortunately not the case for many other biracial people in the same position. Many are proud of only one when they really should be proud of both. Being biracial doesn’t make them “dirty” or “unpure”, if anything it makes them more diverse and unique.
If they’re surrounded by those who don’t accept them for who they are, then they’re not the people they should associate with, there are millions of people out there who will embrace their mixed heritage.


January 10, 2010 at 4:35 pm Leave a comment

Just Because Your Blonde (A Follow Up To Skinny Over Fat, Blonde Over Brunette…..)

Despite the title, ths post is aimed at all girls [or boys], of any race, shape, hair or eye colour who believe that they can get by in life solely based on the way they look

Just because you are treated well now in High School (or maybe even College) based on your appearance, don’t expect the same to happen once High School is over. Once you get out of school, people may treat you very differently from the way you are treated now.

While it’s true that we live in a society where if you look a certain way, you are more likely to receive certain privileges, that’s not always the case. Once you go out into the real world and need a job, you’re going to need qualifications. You’ll need some kind of masters or degree to get a decent job (depending on what you want to do). You’ll need something to show for yourself outside of your appearance…unless you want to be something like a model.

Even then, you can’t just rely on your looks. Anyone who watched Cycle 7 of America’s Next Top Mo [ANTM] will know who I’m talking about when I mention Jaeda Young.  During her auditions she openly admitted that during High School, she was considered “The Hot One”. She believed that one of the reasons she should be a model was because people in High School had constantly told her how pretty she was and how should be one. Jaeda made it into the the final 13, but when it came to makeovers, things changed. They decided to cut her hair short [like Halle Berry’s]. After getting it cut, it was all she’d complain about. She now felt ugly without her long hair and not longer felt like “The Hot One” like she was labelled in school. Like the judges kept telling her “just because you were considered one of the prettiest girls in High School, doesn’t mean that you’ll make a good model“. And they were right. While your appearence is important as a model, other things are important like potential, confidence, personality and most importantly, strong photos…something Jaeda didn’t have. Her photos eventually got weaker and weaker, and she was eliminated. She didn’t even make it to the semi finals.

However, that quote doesn’t just refer to her; it applies to anyone else who’s in the same position as in High School. The opposite also applies too: just because you weren’t considered one of the prettiest girls in High School, doesn’t mean that you won’t make a good model. Anyone who watched Cycle 3 of ANTM will remember that Eva Marcille (formerly known as Eva Pigford) won that Cycle. She wasn’t considered pretty at school and she wasn’t that popular…but she still won. At the end of the day, it didn’t matter what people at school thought of her, but the judges, and they saw a beautiful girl with potential, which is the main reason why she won.

The point is, it’s usually the people who aren’t as popular and who aren’t considered the most attractive that are the most succesful in life. They are the ones who become the executives, the wealthy businessmen and the CEOs. Look at someone like Bill Gates. His school life wasn’t exactly great, he wasn’t the most popular or the best looking boy in his class, but that didn’t stop him from becoming the chairman of Microsoft and being one of the wealthiest people in the WORLD.

Now I’m not saying that people who are popular and who are considered attractive can’t be successful, I’m saying that it’s more seen in the people who aren’t because their social life isn’t seen as more important than their school work. They have their priorities straight; they know that their main goal in school is to do well academically and not just socially.

So you may be popular now or considered pretty or even “hot”, but don’t get used to it. Not everyone you meet will think of you in the same way that people in your school think of you now. When employers look for people to hire, they will look past your appearance and see you for what you really are [so let’s hope that there’s more to you than your appearance]

And as for those who treat certain people in thier school badly, be careful what you do or say to them…they might just be your boss one day.

July 2, 2009 at 10:02 am 2 comments

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