Skinny Over “Fat”, Blondes Over Brunettes && Light Skin Over Dark…The Affect It Has

May 17, 2009 at 7:48 pm 2 comments

It happens in almost every high school; where there are those certain girls (and boys) who get more attention from others. They get treated better, they are the ones a lot of people like and get called pretty/hot; they are popular…because of the way they look.

It’s either the skinny blonde girls, or maybe even the light skinned ones with long curly hair and green eyes in the black/asian community. Though the features can vary depending on where you are, they are overall pretty much the same. These girzoe-saldana-1-0509-lgls [like stated before] are popular, get on well with more people, and are generally treated better by people in comparison to others, because of their appearance. They are put on a pedastool and are praised, get more attention from people [especially boys] and are always reminded of how pretty they look or how they are beautiful. They are the ones that people always want to be around.

To some of us, they are great, and outside of these certain girls (or boys) no one else matters. We feel the need/want to always be around and with them and [sometimes] give them our undivided attention.

Most of us treat people like this subconsciously. Some will never realize that they are favoring those girls over the rest based on their appearence. Some are aware of it and openly tell others [for example] that they’re not pretty or good enough because they don’t look like these girls. Some think about it a bit, but not too much because in their mind, that’s just the way things should be.

Whatever the thought is we are all guilty of it. I admit, though I never thought badly of dark skinned black girls etc… I used to treat blonde [white] or light skinned black/asian girls better than others because at that age (I was about 10-11), I was convinced that they were better, but I never knew why…. they just were.

Now I realise I thought that because of society. With almost everyone in the media having those features and being treated so well by others, society made me believe that’s what was right [look wise] above everything else. It made me think that in order to be accepted that’s what you had to look like. And while I didn’t wish to look like that myself, I felt the need to treat anyone who did better than everyone else.

Thankfully, I got out of that mindset and realised that while it could make things easier if you look like that in today’s world, you’ll still be accepted if you don’t. I also realized that those people aren’t always going to be treated like that, because not everyone will necessarily like them solely based on their looks [not everyone;s that shallow]. Also because like many things, their looks will fade, meaning so will the attention that came with it.

I could go further into this, [I think I’ll save that for another post], but I want to end it by saying that in this day and age where beauty comes in many different forms, colours and shapes, it’s our job as people to not favour the skinny green eyed blondes for instance over others. Though we many not have started it, it should be our priority to end it.


Entry filed under: Colourism, High School, Obsession, The Media, Uncategorized, What "Beauty" Is.

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2 Comments Add your own

  • 1. anon  |  July 5, 2009 at 3:13 pm

    you have a problem. people don’t like you because you are black.. they don’t like you because you are racist against whites. you’re in a white school so if you want to be liked, start accepting that you’re the minority and people don’t hate you for that. whites are majority so obviously there is a bigger chance that there will be more white popular people, use your brain. you are just self conscious and blame all your problems on the fact that you are different and make it more obvious by posting this. get your act together.

  • 2. Billie Walker  |  August 4, 2009 at 4:27 pm

    Wait what [??]
    Since when am I racist against whites [??]
    If I was like you were accusing…then why did I come to the school [??] Why wouldn’t I just go to a school where there are more black people [??] I know why certain people don’t like me, and I know it has nothing to do with my race. I also now who and what I am so I don’t need you to tell me. So I suggest you look at yourself, use YOUR brain and get YOUR act together before you tell me that I’m the one with the problem.


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